The boy in the pink dress
My little brother (who’s actually not so little at almost 6′ft tall and a month shy of his 30th birthday) and his long-time girlfriend got engaged last weekend. They announced it to the family at a party Friday night. I was at a mommy conference (which I will post about later). So he told me the news Saturday night as I was driving back home. I then told Seth the news. This is how that conversation went…
Me: Seth quess what? Uncle Matt and Aunt Candace are engaged!
Seth: (quizzical look)
Me: That means they will be getting married.
Seth: (stares at me blankly)
Me: Getting married means they will go to church and promise to love and take care of each other forever. Candace will probably wear a pretty white dress and there will be a big party afterwards.
Seth: Can I wear a pink dress?
Me: Uh, well… I don’t think you’d be very comfortable in a pink dress, sweets.
Seth: Well then can I wear a black dress?
Me: Well… I don’t think you’d be comfortable in ANY sort of dress. I’m thinkin’ you should wear what big boys usually wear and go with pants. But we’ll talk more about that later.
I told Marc about this conversation later on. His response? “Don’t tell me stuff like THAT!”
Isabel on 20 Mar 2006 at 10:38 pm #
That is sweet. I think he just didn’t understand..and he figured if the bride gets a pretty dress…he should get one to!
So, maybe a black dress? That sounds fair to me!
MrsFortune on 20 Mar 2006 at 11:22 pm #
Hmm … there was this really really interesting piece on 60 minutes a couple weeks ago about “childhood gender non-conformity.” Not sure if that’s what’s going on but … I doubt it. It was interesting anyway.
Kristen on 20 Mar 2006 at 11:28 pm #
That is hilarious. Of course, my husband would die as well.
At least he knows how to dress for an special occasion. I think a pink dress is nice for a spring wedding.
Dawn on 20 Mar 2006 at 11:44 pm #
It was all that weiner talk….
And Black is very slimming!
Here is what I told all the parents of the boys who loved to wear the dance outfits, full of sparkle and glitter.
It doesn’t mean that your are raising Elton John. Your son is well aware that he is a boy and clothes aren’t what will determine his gender identity.
BUT kids who are experimenting with imagination NEED props like clothes to help them assume different roles. They are developing empathy skills - projecting feelings and figuring out different responses. And who can resist Glitter? and Sparkle? I mena come on! Thats the best looking stuff in dramatic play.
I don’t blame Seth for wanting a lovely dress. Boys have to settle for such dull stuff!
Stephanie A. on 21 Mar 2006 at 12:24 am #
This slightly reminds me of that French movie “Ma Vie En Rose” but this is not at all as extreme, of course. I think it is pretty normal for kids to cross those lines when they’re young. But my husband would have a fit, too. And that surprises me from him because he is the most liberal man ever- unless his son starts dressing like a girl.
jennster on 21 Mar 2006 at 1:05 am #
LMAO- see, this is the good stuff! BWAHAHHAHAHA
Ranger Tom on 21 Mar 2006 at 11:18 am #
I’d have shit…
Mega Mom on 21 Mar 2006 at 12:28 pm #
I hope that didn’t create more controversy for you b/c I love reading all of this.
When I was young my neighbors (8 and 10 years old) used to dress up their brother (5) in dresses complete with make-up and a wig. My favorite thing about him is what great friendships he maintains with both men and women. Maybe being in touch with his feminine side helped bring that about :)))
I say go with a nice shade of green :))
Becky on 21 Mar 2006 at 2:48 pm #
LOL sometimes my 3 year old daughter likes to wear her big cousins spiderman underwear instead of her disney princess ones. its funny how kids are.
Bridgermama on 21 Mar 2006 at 10:23 pm #
Ha! I am sure he would look very handsome in a pink dress. My husband would not want to hear it either.
Emily on 22 Mar 2006 at 6:40 am #
Awe come on, let him wear the pink dress.
Hehe, what a cutie!
nicolle on 22 Mar 2006 at 12:50 pm #
hehe, mine insists she is the kwing, and only wears cowboys(boys blue jeans) like “boys do’s”
on a side note, lady, you made my year! thanks for leaving the comments.
Nap Queen on 29 Mar 2006 at 11:18 pm #
OMG, I’m seriously laughing out loud. What a sweet, sweet boy