Thank you!
Thank you everyone for listening to my “plan” for pregnancy. It means alot to me.
I know there are couples out there that have had years of heartbreak and frustration in the baby-making arena. I truly feel for them. I can’t imagine how much anguish they’ve endured in their quest. If one of those women were to read this post, she’d probably kick my butt. Because hello! At least I have a child. There are alot of couples that would contemplate chewing off their own arm for the one healthy, happy little man I have.
But what can I say? I’m a greedy bitch. I want another little person — you know to help Seth rule to roost. Someone who will knock down his blocks and break his toys. Someone he’ll have to SHARE with. And compete with for mommy and daddy’s love. *
One of the ways my siblings and I have bonded over the years is to laugh over the oddities of our parents. It sounds horrible to admit that we’ve become closer by making fun of the people who raised and sacrificed for us. But its true. Our childhoods were sort of stressful. (A little Prozak and some sort of anti-anxiety drug would have gone a llllooonnnggg way with the mama and the papa.) So when looking back, we laugh about the truly ridiculous things our parents did, the attitudes they had or the nonsensical things they said. What else can you do?
Seth needs an audience for his future impersonations of us. He needs someone to laugh with. Someone who will help him make sense of his childhood. Someone he can help as well. And who else would understand as well as a sibling? (Ok or a therapist.)
Also, when Marc and I get old, someone is going to have to take care of us. If there’s two children, the burden is lightened. But the plan is if we find we have two ungrateful children, then we’ll dangle the estate’s worth in front of them and watch them hustle. THAT should get things done!
But seriously…. I love my siblings so very much. They have brought so much more depth and love into my life. I love them more now that I don’t have to live with them but still… Lots of good life lessons… And I would love to give Seth a sibling because of this. Plus, as parents, we have alot of love, time and energy to give to another little person. We’ve learned so much from Seth. He’s brought us alot of joy. I’d love to see life from yet a new perspective. So in short, its about the love, people. The love, the laughter. And stuff.
*Just KIDDING on the competition thing. Well, sort of.






jennster on 03 May 2006 at 9:32 pm #
there is NOTHING wrong with wanting another and not feeling guilty about it. it’s nice that you’re aware of other people’s feelings, and i totally get where you’re coming from, but still. you’ve every right to want as many children as you can pay for. lol.. good luck! this will be fun! just wait until i get hitched next year, and then let’s all get knocked up together! it can be a blog birthing party! HA!
Dawn on 03 May 2006 at 9:54 pm #
It is also a good way to learn the art of the bribe. Practice with sib’s.
Jennifer on 04 May 2006 at 12:11 am #
I am in total agreement with Jennster (she has such a cool name after all). It’s great that you are thankful for what you have, and that you are considerate of other’s feelings, but there’s no need to feel guilty for wanting another child. If I had a kid as handsome as that one, I’d want more too! I really think that siblings are the greatest gift parents can give their child — and here I can speak from experience (since I have no kids yet, but I do have two siblings). I can’t imagine what my life would have been like without my brothers. I think I would have been bored (and spoiled) out of my mind. I know plenty of only children who turned out great, but I would go nuts if I couln’t email my brothers to laugh about my Dad’s latest stupid political comment. We have totally different views on EVERYTHING — but there’s no one who knows you better, and knows your whole history and all the stupid little family quirks and jokes, than a brother or sister. Good luck! I hope you have another bun in the oven soon!
Kristin on 04 May 2006 at 1:09 am #
Hi-
Thank you so much for your comment on my blog… I really appreciate it!
Now, I need to go and lurk around your archives… especially reading more about your pregnancy plan!
Mega Mom on 04 May 2006 at 2:26 am #
I missed all of this yesterday. I’ll be thinking of you all. All the best to you!
Nap Queen on 04 May 2006 at 2:45 am #
OMG, your comment about dangling the estate’s worth in front of them made me LOL. I agree totally. My sister and I hated each other until she was in college and now we are best friends. We keep each other sane on many a family vacation and at various holiday dinners
Tori on 04 May 2006 at 7:25 am #
You go babe… get shagging!
I had babies so easily and yet my poor sis is having her eggs harvested tomorrow for round one of IVF…
Sisters, siblings, sex and babies are all fabulous.
Feel no guilt…
Lie back and think of England - as we pompous Brits like to say!
sunshine scribe on 04 May 2006 at 10:40 am #
I hope you have some good fun baby makin
Stephanie A. on 04 May 2006 at 1:38 pm #
You shouldn’t feel guilty about wanting another one, but you are being very thoughtful of those who have had struggles. I can relate to this because one of my best friends had trouble getting pregnant for 4 years and I got pregnant on the first try.
And if I didn’t mention it in my last comment- I’m convinced it is all thanks to Pilates after sex, so you may want to try that. Those nutso positions really get the boys moving in the right direction!
Becky on 04 May 2006 at 2:40 pm #
for the longest time i didn’t want another baby and now i want one so bad for the same reasons—so hannah will have a sibling and not be a spoiled punk that i never got to be! lol. good luck!
Jenn on 04 May 2006 at 4:01 pm #
It’ll happen, don’t worry. And then after the second, the third will be like an oops when the second is like 3 months old. LOL It’s happened to a couple of people I know. Two years of trying after the first and then 2 and 3 like rapid fire!!!
Romancing Simplicity on 04 May 2006 at 7:46 pm #
You shouldn’t feel guilty at all. It has to be a very frustrating situation.
Again, I wish you all best in the knocked-up department. Er, the sideways tango department too as I hear you have to get through that one to get to the other one. Good luck!
Andrea on 04 May 2006 at 8:21 pm #
Just because your frustration and angst over having some difficulty doesn’t match the duration of the pain others who have tried longer may be feeling doesn’t make your feelings any less valid, though I do understand your guilt. I joined a trying to conceive chat room and learned a lot about timing ovulation and temperature taking, then felt guilty when I got pregnant the first month we started trying. Some people in that chat room were angry with me as if I had any real control over my success, but most of them were happy for me and encouraging. At least you’re keeping your sense of humor about you, especially with my K-Fed comment yesterday. That was in pretty poor taste and I can’t imagine ANYONE being THAT desperate.
But I liked your plan, and who couldn’t use a new wardrobe or vacation? Good luck to you, and again, I hope we hear some good news in the next few weeks!
Isabel on 04 May 2006 at 9:03 pm #
After our two miscarriages….we had kinda of given up hope. Stuff like that just gets to you.
What I’m trying to say is that I sort of know what you’re going through.
And there is nothing wrong with wanting another child for Seth (and you guys) to play with.
I have three siblings and it sure was fun to have them around when I was growing up. They made being a family all the more enjoyable!!
consise10 on 08 May 2006 at 4:44 am #
Best of luck to both of you in your quest