Comments on: Way to go dumbass! http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/ Fri, 29 Aug 2008 03:12:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: Mediocre Minister's Wife http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1751 Mediocre Minister's Wife Thu, 27 Jul 2006 07:33:21 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1751 Just remember you're only human. Apologize to your son and anyone that heard. I can tell you from experience that your son will NOT remember any of the good things you've done for him, but he'll remember each and every time (down to the minute detail) you swore! LOL!!<br/>Anyways, I love your blogs and am going to bookmark. I'm a pastor's wife too. Come visit me at mediocreministerswife@blogspot.com<br/>Good luck you darling saint! Just remember you’re only human. Apologize to your son and anyone that heard. I can tell you from experience that your son will NOT remember any of the good things you’ve done for him, but he’ll remember each and every time (down to the minute detail) you swore! LOL!!
Anyways, I love your blogs and am going to bookmark. I’m a pastor’s wife too. Come visit me at mediocreministerswife@blogspot.com
Good luck you darling saint!

]]> By: Virginia Belle http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1473 Virginia Belle Wed, 28 Jun 2006 15:57:50 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1473 beat him.<br/><br/>just kidding. kinda. i don't know. it worked for my mom. and i'm pretty normal.<br/><br/>don't worry about yelling at your kids. i think every mom does it. and as a single woman, i don't think it is crazy or sign of a bad mother. i just look at the kid and think, "why won't you just do what she says, you little punk?!"<br/><br/>more people are on your side than you think! beat him.

just kidding. kinda. i don’t know. it worked for my mom. and i’m pretty normal.

don’t worry about yelling at your kids. i think every mom does it. and as a single woman, i don’t think it is crazy or sign of a bad mother. i just look at the kid and think, “why won’t you just do what she says, you little punk?!”

more people are on your side than you think!

]]> By: sunshine scribe http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1384 sunshine scribe Sat, 17 Jun 2006 11:27:48 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1384 Don't beat yourself up over this. We all have lost it before and you are a good mom. With my son whose about the same age we've gone through the "turning up the volume" as the only thing that works phase too. But he changes like the weather so I am always trying new shit. Rewards, talking it out, loss of privledges, etc etc. You'll find the right combination that is uniquely effective for Seth. Sending good vibes and a virtual martini your way... Don’t beat yourself up over this. We all have lost it before and you are a good mom. With my son whose about the same age we’ve gone through the “turning up the volume” as the only thing that works phase too. But he changes like the weather so I am always trying new shit. Rewards, talking it out, loss of privledges, etc etc. You’ll find the right combination that is uniquely effective for Seth. Sending good vibes and a virtual martini your way…

]]> By: sweatpantsmom http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1374 sweatpantsmom Fri, 16 Jun 2006 18:42:33 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1374 Don't feel bad. You're a good mom. <br/><br/>I would like to meet the mom in your neighborhood who HASN'T ever yelled at her kids. Because I would like to shake her hand and ask her what planet she's from. Don’t feel bad. You’re a good mom.

I would like to meet the mom in your neighborhood who HASN’T ever yelled at her kids. Because I would like to shake her hand and ask her what planet she’s from.

]]> By: movin'mom http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1373 movin'mom Fri, 16 Jun 2006 12:33:14 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1373 I think my guilty thing was to bribe and let me tell you I think cussing works better. just kidding. <br/><br/>My kids got this <br/>book when they were little called <br/>A child's behavior guide to bad manners- or something like that anyway each page had 6-8 scenes like a comic almost but simpler art. <br/>They were all this little boy who just could not behave and I would read this to my kids and they would actually recognize things that they did as well. The funny thing is I would find this book in the bathroom in the car, in their bed, all four kids had interest in it, <br/><br/>So when we were out in public if they did something like that where I felt like I was at my 4 letter word point I would say, " Your doing exactly what that boy was doing in your book" They always had to stop and think but then they would listen because the beauty of it was that it allowed them to see it as opposed to just being it, Even now when my kids see others kids losing it or not behaving they will make a face at me like, OMG. <br/>They have no memory that they did it too. But it was short lived. you just gotta get a little creative. I think my guilty thing was to bribe and let me tell you I think cussing works better. just kidding.

My kids got this
book when they were little called
A child’s behavior guide to bad manners- or something like that anyway each page had 6-8 scenes like a comic almost but simpler art.
They were all this little boy who just could not behave and I would read this to my kids and they would actually recognize things that they did as well. The funny thing is I would find this book in the bathroom in the car, in their bed, all four kids had interest in it,

So when we were out in public if they did something like that where I felt like I was at my 4 letter word point I would say, ” Your doing exactly what that boy was doing in your book” They always had to stop and think but then they would listen because the beauty of it was that it allowed them to see it as opposed to just being it, Even now when my kids see others kids losing it or not behaving they will make a face at me like, OMG.
They have no memory that they did it too. But it was short lived. you just gotta get a little creative.

]]> By: The Flip Flop Mamma! http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1372 The Flip Flop Mamma! Fri, 16 Jun 2006 03:18:06 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1372 Since I'm a pastor's wife, I feel like crap when I slip and yell at my oldest kid! I never cuss though, but still I have yelled and said things like "what the heck are you doing?" and then I'm so humiliated! It's human nature...I'm sure you're a great mom, and those other moms probably lose it behind closed doors. Since I’m a pastor’s wife, I feel like crap when I slip and yell at my oldest kid! I never cuss though, but still I have yelled and said things like “what the heck are you doing?” and then I’m so humiliated! It’s human nature…I’m sure you’re a great mom, and those other moms probably lose it behind closed doors.

]]> By: Mrs. Chicky http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1371 Mrs. Chicky Fri, 16 Jun 2006 02:34:19 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1371 Sorry, I don't have any advice for you. My daughter isn't quite old enough for me to experience that with her and my dogs wait for me to tack on the word "Now!" to the end of every command before they respond.<br/><br/>But don't beat yourself up. I'm sure those other moms have committed a few infractions of their own. Sorry, I don’t have any advice for you. My daughter isn’t quite old enough for me to experience that with her and my dogs wait for me to tack on the word “Now!” to the end of every command before they respond.

But don’t beat yourself up. I’m sure those other moms have committed a few infractions of their own.

]]> By: melissa http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1370 melissa Fri, 16 Jun 2006 00:58:52 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1370 Um, drive him over to my house? I'll watch him, you get a coffee/martini!<br/><br/>As you know, I'm working on my own issues with the yelling. The gentle discipline thing is helpful so far, but I lapse so easily. Grr.<br/><br/>Or? I can bring over the Starbuck's/Vodka/Chocolate (pick your poison)! Um, drive him over to my house? I’ll watch him, you get a coffee/martini!

As you know, I’m working on my own issues with the yelling. The gentle discipline thing is helpful so far, but I lapse so easily. Grr.

Or? I can bring over the Starbuck’s/Vodka/Chocolate (pick your poison)!

]]> By: Jaelithe http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1369 Jaelithe Thu, 15 Jun 2006 20:19:34 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1369 Um, if there are a lot of SAHMs on your street, then I am sure most of them knew exactly why you snapped and started screaming. <br/><br/>Anyway what he was doing was dangerous-- running around near a street in and out of your line of sight while you were clearly distracted-- and he's old enough to know better. Sometimes when a kid is doing something dangerous and not listening to you, you just have to yell to get his attention. <br/><br/>My own husband is out of town right now, and I've definitely noticed an increase in my own voice's volume . . . Um, if there are a lot of SAHMs on your street, then I am sure most of them knew exactly why you snapped and started screaming.

Anyway what he was doing was dangerous– running around near a street in and out of your line of sight while you were clearly distracted– and he’s old enough to know better. Sometimes when a kid is doing something dangerous and not listening to you, you just have to yell to get his attention.

My own husband is out of town right now, and I’ve definitely noticed an increase in my own voice’s volume . . .

]]> By: Cheesegirl http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1368 Cheesegirl Thu, 15 Jun 2006 18:11:15 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2006/06/15/way-to-go-dumbass/#comment-1368 You can't dwell on what others think...you do what you gotta do. Every parent goes through the same scenario but we all do what we think is right at that moment. I ask Tyler if he likes it when I have to yell at him & he says no so then I say I don't like yelling at you either, please listen & do what I say. Or you like to make Mommy happy, right? Well, doing what I say makes me very happy! And then lots of hugs & kisses! You can’t dwell on what others think…you do what you gotta do. Every parent goes through the same scenario but we all do what we think is right at that moment. I ask Tyler if he likes it when I have to yell at him & he says no so then I say I don’t like yelling at you either, please listen & do what I say. Or you like to make Mommy happy, right? Well, doing what I say makes me very happy! And then lots of hugs & kisses!

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