Comments on: Ah, "Anger" and "Resentment" — my old friends http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/ Fri, 29 Aug 2008 03:04:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: Chris http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3481 Chris Mon, 05 Mar 2007 02:59:48 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3481 Just lurking...What a great perfect post! I came over from Surburban Turmoil. Just lurking…What a great perfect post! I came over from Surburban Turmoil.

]]> By: Sandy. http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3450 Sandy. Thu, 01 Mar 2007 22:03:34 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3450 I followed the link from Petroville to your "perfect post."<br/><br/>What a lesson for us all.<br/><br/>Sandy. I followed the link from Petroville to your “perfect post.”

What a lesson for us all.

Sandy.

]]> By: Brown Eyed Girl http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3449 Brown Eyed Girl Thu, 01 Mar 2007 15:16:45 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3449 I've gotten better about these things too as I've gotten older.<br/><br/>For me, I don't forget what happened but I do forgive them for their imperfections because LORD knows I have enough of my own.<br/><br/>I've become more "accepting" I guess of people for who they are and sometimes that means just finding a way to say "you didn't know what you were doing but this is how I feel about it." and moving on. Because like you said..people (even me) make mistakes.<br/><br/>Good for you.<br/><br/>I hope hitting the "publish" button worked. I’ve gotten better about these things too as I’ve gotten older.

For me, I don’t forget what happened but I do forgive them for their imperfections because LORD knows I have enough of my own.

I’ve become more “accepting” I guess of people for who they are and sometimes that means just finding a way to say “you didn’t know what you were doing but this is how I feel about it.” and moving on. Because like you said..people (even me) make mistakes.

Good for you.

I hope hitting the “publish” button worked.

]]> By: Lori http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3448 Lori Thu, 01 Mar 2007 02:58:17 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3448 I am not a very good grudgeholder. Like someone said before me here, it just seems to take too much energy and focus to stay angry at someone for a long time. I also think that because I'm an agnostic/borderline atheist, I feel that this life is the only shot I've got at being happy, so holding a grudge would only stand in my way.<br/><br/>I read somewhere (I think it was in a book called Life 101) that forgiveness is the best gift a person can give to him/herself. If you don't forgive, you only wind up hurting yourself in the long run. Interesting, isn't it? I am not a very good grudgeholder. Like someone said before me here, it just seems to take too much energy and focus to stay angry at someone for a long time. I also think that because I’m an agnostic/borderline atheist, I feel that this life is the only shot I’ve got at being happy, so holding a grudge would only stand in my way.

I read somewhere (I think it was in a book called Life 101) that forgiveness is the best gift a person can give to him/herself. If you don’t forgive, you only wind up hurting yourself in the long run. Interesting, isn’t it?

]]> By: scribbit http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3447 scribbit Wed, 28 Feb 2007 21:38:06 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3447 I love this post. I really admire you for being able to do this, forgiving is so hard to do but I'm convinced it makes us better people. Thanks for sharing this difficult subject. I love this post. I really admire you for being able to do this, forgiving is so hard to do but I’m convinced it makes us better people. Thanks for sharing this difficult subject.

]]> By: Reba http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3446 Reba Wed, 28 Feb 2007 20:34:30 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3446 I have not spoken to my best friend since before christmas. You may have just inspired me to suck it up and call her. Even though it was her fault. Hmmm...Sounds like I may still have a problem with forgiving. I have not spoken to my best friend since before christmas. You may have just inspired me to suck it up and call her. Even though it was her fault. Hmmm…Sounds like I may still have a problem with forgiving.

]]> By: Quinn http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3445 Quinn Wed, 28 Feb 2007 18:55:59 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3445 What a great post. I am terrible at holding grudges- I just don't have the energy for it. Although there are a few people in my life who have lost the right to matter so much to me, because of the pain they've caused me in the past. I totally forgive them, I just refuse to take them seriously nowadays, thereby stripping them of the power to hurt me again. Hmmm... I wonder if that makes me mature, or totally dysfunctional? What a great post. I am terrible at holding grudges- I just don’t have the energy for it. Although there are a few people in my life who have lost the right to matter so much to me, because of the pain they’ve caused me in the past. I totally forgive them, I just refuse to take them seriously nowadays, thereby stripping them of the power to hurt me again. Hmmm… I wonder if that makes me mature, or totally dysfunctional?

]]> By: Steven Novak http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3444 Steven Novak Wed, 28 Feb 2007 17:11:53 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3444 If I could let things go it wouldn't be aover a year since I last talked to my father. ;)<br/><br/>Steve~ If I could let things go it wouldn’t be aover a year since I last talked to my father. ;)

Steve~

]]> By: Andrea http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3443 Andrea Wed, 28 Feb 2007 16:35:03 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3443 I am a huge grudge holder. I've been looking for ways to let things go for a long time. Unfortunately, I can't write about most of it on my blog because I don't want to drag that stuff out for the public to peruse and judge themselves. And I can't be as vague about it as you and still purge it. I hope this works for you! If so, maybe I'll write a post and just not publish it. Or maybe I'll go to <a HREF="http://herbadmother.blogspot.com/" REL="nofollow">The Basement</a> to air it. I am a huge grudge holder. I’ve been looking for ways to let things go for a long time. Unfortunately, I can’t write about most of it on my blog because I don’t want to drag that stuff out for the public to peruse and judge themselves. And I can’t be as vague about it as you and still purge it. I hope this works for you! If so, maybe I’ll write a post and just not publish it. Or maybe I’ll go to The Basement to air it.

]]> By: That Chick Over There http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3442 That Chick Over There Wed, 28 Feb 2007 15:31:14 +0000 http://midwesternmommy.com/2007/02/26/ah-anger-and-resentment-my-old-friends/#comment-3442 Good for you! I'm one of the worst grudge holders EVER. I can resent someone like no one's business. I admire people who can get past it! Good for you! I’m one of the worst grudge holders EVER. I can resent someone like no one’s business. I admire people who can get past it!

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