Comments on: “Only” ain’t always “lonely”

By: A Perfect Post - November’07 | Petroville

A Perfect Post - November’07 | Petroville — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 10:55:56 +0000

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By: Kirsten

Kirsten — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 03:44:47 +0000

I have several friends in your position. Very happy with their family of three but daily questions about when they’ll start working on the next one. Now that I think about it, I am probably too quick to ask women I don’t know incredibly well when they will have number two. Thanks for the post to remind me that not every woman wants or needs or is able to have a gaggle of kiddos.

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By: bellevelma

bellevelma — Sat, 01 Dec 2007 16:59:03 +0000

I enjoy hearing positive stories about onlies. My son is an only and even though he is six years old, people continue to ask when we are having another, and when they aren’t asking they are going on and one about how we need to have more. Funny how they never offer any real incentives for us to do so - they don’t offer to raise them, to babysit, potty train them, or pay for college. I’m happy with one. I don’t know why others keep thinking it’s any of their business.

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 19:15:32 +0000

My husband was an only child and I had 2 sisters. My dh said he didn’t really care much being an onlie but I loved having sisters and always playing barbies, etc. with someone. We ended up with 4 kids. From a different point a view, we always have people ask if we’re done yet! lol

By: Dana

Dana — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 19:56:37 +0000

Good for you! Tell everyone to mind their own damn business. What’s best for YOU and YOUR family is all that matters.

Sorry, I’m cranky. We need to swap “unbloggables” in real time again soon.

By: AbsolutelyBananas

AbsolutelyBananas — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 19:28:01 +0000

Ohh! As a mom on an only I LOVE this post.

By: slackermommy

slackermommy — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 18:33:53 +0000

I’m guilty of asking people if they plan to have more kids. I try not to. I know it’s rude but it I still slip up every now and then. Maybe I just don’t know what else to say. I really don’t know why I’m so curious about other people’s family planning. It’s not that I think everyone should have a bunch of kids because I do. In fact I’m often envious of those who have one or two. Those moms have more time for themselves and are way less stressed than I am. I also worry that I’m spreading myself too thin with my four and that they are not getting all their emotional needs met.

I’m asked a lot also if I plan to have more. People seem to think since I’ve got 4 then I must be the type who can’t stop having babies. What’s one or two more if you already have four?! Most of the time it doesn’t bother me. It really depends on who is asking.

You are a great mom and Seth is a great kid. Tell the naysayers to F off.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 17:37:11 +0000

I can’t believe that people say some of those things! I know people who have only one child and I cannot even fathom telling them that their decision not to have anymore was the wrong one. I also know people who have eight children or ten children and I wouldn’t ever tell them that they made the wrong decision by continuing to add to their family. At the end of the day, people make those decisions for many reasons, and none of them are the business of anyone else. Until I were THE PERSON who had made THAT DECISION, how could I ever judge them or form an opinion about it?

Seriously, some people, eh? I’m really sorry you have to put up with that, but I’m glad that you have been able to find a community of parents to reassure you that your choice is just fine for your family and those judging people?

Are full of rubbish. And, you know, other unsavory things.

By: Mommy off the Record

Mommy off the Record — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 07:01:50 +0000

I know more than one person who is an only child and feels incredibly lucky to be an only child so don’t let anyone make you feel bad. Seth has lots of love from you - what more could he need?