A face from the past
Posted on September 30, 2008
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At first glance she seemed to be an ordinary mom shopping for candy. But something made me give her a second look. When I realized who she was, I shook with anger. I hightailed it out of Target. I had to. (Or else I’d be at the police right now being charged with battery.)
At first, she appears charming, well-spoken, and sweet. But over time, she leaves a swath of emotional destruction in her wake. No one who’s in her life for long remains unaffected. And years ago, after witnessing, and at times being a victim of her manipulating, toxic behavior, Marc and I cut her out of our lives.
She doesn’t realize I’m privy to a number of stunts she’s pulled over the years. I’ll give you a few in bullet points:
*Three weeks before my wedding, my husband was working on a project out of town. She told him that he should lie to me and tell me he couldn’t come home that weekend because he needed to stay on the project site. She told him if he paid for her plane ticket, she’d go to where he was and “f*ck his brains out all weekend long.” All this while acting as if she was my best friend and offering to help me with my wedding stuff! (And no he didn’t.) I had no idea of her duplicity at this time. And I didn’t find this out until a few years ago. She was always trying to start sh*t up between the hubs and me. She’d do it so smoothly and subtly.
*When 9/11 took place, I was working for her mom. As my coworkers and I watched the towers collapse, she watched too. And then she bitched about what it would do to her financial portfolio.
*She has a police record for beating a boyfriend with a hockey stick.
*After she got gastric bypass surgery and slimmed down, she started cheating on this same guy — a man who’d stayed with her for years through thick and thin (literally AND figuratively). She moved his stuff out of her place on a Wednesday and moved new boyfriend’s stuff two days later. New boyfriend became husband. Which brings me to my next story…
*Last I heard, she was cheating on her husband with an ex-boyfriend. In fact she loved to arrange double dates — her and her husband with ex-boyfriend and his wife.
*She has sold purses and clothes on Ebay, advertising them as high-end designer brands like Coach and Juicy Couture. When people got the items, they’d realize they purchased low-quality fakes. When Ebay took away her account due to customer complaints, she went into an Ebay account of one of her mom’s employees and set up shop there doing the same thing. She has ripped off friends and family this way too.
I could go on and on. And yes, now she has children.
I used to pity her. But at one point, I got disgusted. We changed e-mails, moved, got a new phone number, got new cell numbers. But seeing her face today, I felt anger for the countless people she’s screwed over the years. I wanted to scream at her on behalf of the people who gave her their trust only to have her stab them in the back. I wanted to let everyone in Target know what kind of person she is.
But I didn’t. I found it prudent to leave the store.
I find it interesting. Out of all of the places to live in St. Louis area, she now lives about three minutes from us.
The support I received after this post was amazing. (Thankfully, the scary ordeal is no longer “scary” nor an “ordeal”.) But I wanted to thank everyone who took time to read the post and comment. So I’ll be thanking a group of people as a part of each post until I’ve thanked everyone.
So thank you to: (Rose) Its My Life, Senorita Mommy, T with Honey, Marie, Michelle, Desiree, Victoria, Karianna, KGirl, Feral Mom, Jodi, Liz, Days Go By, Mommy Mae, Megan, Stimey, Danielle, Mandee, and Karen Sugarpants.
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You showed remarkable restraint. I’m very proud of you.
As my momma used to say, leave her to Heaven.
Eww.. I feel like I need to shower after reading that post.. Nasty woman. I’m sorry you had to deal w/ someone like that.
Karma’s a bitch.
She’ll get hers someday.
That post made me feel slimy. It made me feel frustrated as well. Hopefully the next time you run into her you’ll be in a position to deal with her.
You did the right thing. You should never argue with an idiot….people might have trouble discerning who is whom!
I have had the misfortune of knowing a few people like this in my life! I am glad you got rid of her!
Glad you took the high road and got out of there. She wouldn’t have heard what you had to say anyway. Crazy people only hear what they want to hear.
Wow! I had the same kind of encounter with my ex-best friend in Target last month. I stayed and talked to her but when she called me a couple of days later, I let her have it! And, it felt great!! The next time you see her in Target, go out to the parking lot and wait until she goes to get into her car and tell her everything you want to get off your chest!!!! Just be careful, some parking lots have cameras. LOL!! (Half Joking!!) We should vote all the people like her off of our island, Survivor style!!
Hugs!!
what goes around comes around. good for you for leaving the store. what a bitch!!
Do you mind letting me know who she is since I could very well run into her? Sounds like a lovely woman. I’m so glad you got out of there before she saw you!!!
I’m impressed you didn’t say anything to her. I might have at least thrown something from the next aisle at her and then ran.
I’ll never understand people who take pleasure in screwing up other people’s lives.
Scary that there are those types of people out there - and that they derive such pleasure from reeking havoc on other people’s lives. Glad you got out before it got ugly.
Ugh. What a waste of oxygen.
It’ll alllll come back to her, one day….who knows when, but don’t you wish you could be there to see it happen? heh.
It makes you wonder how people can actually live with themselves.
Yikes! What a horrible woman!!! What you did today was very admirable. She will get what’s coming to her someday…..
she sounds repugnant.
And what kind of luck is that? She lives that close?!!
You’re so good to take the high road. Wonder if I would have.
I’m glad you left the store. It was the right thing to do. Saying anything to her at all would have just gotten her going again, or given her some strange satisfaction out of making you angry. You are a strong lady–way to go!
I have one of ‘those’ in my life…I hope I handle myself as well as you if in the same situation.
Wow. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I would feel the same way if I came F2F with my ex-SIL.
You took the high road because you are a much, much better person than she. Even though it’s very tempting, to let her publicly have it would have been you stooping to somewhere on her level. Just take pleasure in the ol’ Karma factor. She’ll get her some day.
Good for you. It never truly makes you feel better to get down and wallow in the dirt with a person like that. AND it’s better to know that she doesn’t know you’re there. You sure as hell don’t need a destructive person like that in your life.
Wow… and WOW
Sounds like a nice piece of work, I am also proud of you. That crap is hard to walk away from…
Wow, I’m amazed at how much reading that made me want to run down to Target and put my foot in her a$$ (granted, she’s probably gone home by now…). Maybe I need to get a life!
Seriously, great job on walking away because you probably would have just been feeding her weird addiction to have let her see that she got to you.
It’ll all come back to her in the end. It’s hard when you see someone like that because it brings up all kins of emotions. Good job walking away though. Don’t let it eat at you though, she wins then.
Nobody has the right to keep Lisa out of Target! Nobody!
Seriously though - I can think of a few people who would make me react the same way. Betrayal is an awful thing to go through and I am sorry that you had to go through it too. And like someone said above, she will get hers - and it will be of her own doing.
Oh man, can I ever relate! I admire your restraint in not lobbing anything at her head (”Oooo….I saw the whole thing…he just came out of nowhere….It was a run by fruiting!”….ala Mrs. Doubtfire).
I was never able to see the woman, in person, that created so much discourse in our lives, but I was close when we were subpoenaed to testify in her court case. Chicken shit took the plea at the last minute. How rude! Did she not know we’d flown 2,500 miles to be there and that I’d spent time and money to look fabulous in anticipation?
Actually, no, she didn’t…..until it came out the newspaper the next day. Heh.
Now, she’s in prison for embezzlement and forgery for ripping of a very well known children’s charity.
What’s even worse? She still doesn’t think she did anything wrong. ACK!
Who knows? Perhaps your Target woman and the Prison Bitch know each other? LOL!
I’m back and stalking you
If you stop by tomorrow (Friday) I have a special something just for you!!
Ewwwww. I really don’t understand people like this. Thrill seeking? Abused as a child? She sounds just awful.
I would have practically run out of that store. What a bummer that she lives so close, your paths will probably cross again. Maybe you should think up what you might say in advance, if you have to talk to her.
It’s amazing how quickly the bile can rise. Good for you for choosing not to honor her existence. She’s not worth it.
As I was reading your list I kept thinking “I hope she doesn’t have kids” and then you said she did. I feel so sorry for them! Mercy she sounds like a really bad seed.
What a piece of trash. You’re a better person than I for leaving. I might have done something childish, like finding something in electronics that’s small yet expensive and slipping it into her cart. Something stupid like what you’d find in an infomercial.
People like that piss me off. Hope you never see her again.